Got money worries?
Ever had that thing when you have bad news, or something happens and your mind runs away? I mean really runs away – where you think of the worse thing possible that could happen.
Our greatest fears direct these negative thoughts – where you convince yourself that you cannot resolve, or change the status quo and that you are doomed to the worst possible scenario, no matter what you do. The overwhelm that goes with this type of spiraling, negative thinking is exhausting. You head to a dark place of thinking where you allow your mind to flow to all the things that you think are impossible, unreachable or unresolvable.
But there’s a reality here. That what you think MAY happen is just that – thoughts. You need to be aware of how your mind is running away, and your subconscious is taking control. Your reptilian brain starts shouting: “DANGER, DANGER” – but the reality is that unless you are in real physical danger or being chased by a bear – these reptilian-brain-induced thoughts aren’t helping you. Your brain is simply doing all it knows to do: react and send you into panic mode.
“But I have evidence” – you may claim. “I got a demand letter from the credit card company” or “I can’t afford to pay my bills this month.”
I’m not denying the situation – acknowledge it and then think about how you change it, redefine it in your mind and can take positive action. I highlighted the word ‘action’ (yes, again for emphasis) because action is the way to resolve it – even though it may be tempting to take flight, hide, worry, cry, eat, drink – whatever coping mechanism you may turn to.
Because in the modern world any sense of panic, of ‘fight or flight’ doesn’t help when you are worried about certain things – money, for example.
For example if your worry is: “I got a demand letter from the credit card company.” When you have money troubles you can spend so much time focusing on lack, and beating yourself it will become exhausting. Just imagine how this could be the trigger where you change things around – but you need to stop defining yourself by what you see as lack. The first step to this is to STOP the doom-laden spiral thinking (you know where you picture everything getting worse, you losing everything, all your friends and family turn their backs to you, then your pet dog/cat/gerbil leaves you). Instead think how this could be a turning point where you change things in your life – Disney, Hershey, Lincoln and Henry Ford each changed their lives after bankruptcy.
When you stop and reflect, it is astonishing how controlled by our reactions we can be. But what is brilliant here is the ability to take back control – and to tell our mind how we want to react, process and change a situation.
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