I have frustration around the uncommitted time known as “someday.”
This week I discovered it’s something I have in common with Dolores, a wholesome, blue-dress-clad android in HBO’s Western-themed sci-fi thriller, Westworld. When Dolores’s beau, Teddy, says he’ll whisk her away “someday” you can tell something’s going to snap in her circuitry.
When I’m working with clients who are keen to move into action and get their work, lives or projects into gear, it’s important that they realize that someday doesn’t exist. And I work with them to set a timeline for themselves, or commit to a date.
Are you suffering from Someday Syndrome? Here’s a simple fix (but only if you do it):
What is the thing you are going to do “someday?”
Get a calendar.
Pick a date.
Commit to it.
Make the date public in some way — so you’re really committing to it.
Take a small step to support what you are going to do.
Yes, I know it sounds simple. But even declaring the intention of what you want — and when you’re going to do something about it — can get the wheels of the universe in motion. Instead of sitting around, waiting for “someday.”
This is what Adam, a manager at California Pizza Kitchen, said to me and a row of other customers at the Boston restaurant’s bar.
He beamed as he said he was having an “awesome day” and asked me how my day was (“brilliant”), and continued to say how thankful he was for a job which where he was paid to be nice to people and be friendly. And he meant it. As he smiled, each of us along the bar couldn’t help but smile back.
In business, this means coming from a place of gratitude, of being thankful and coming from a place of service. In my sales workshops, I talk about the need to have engagement, enthusiasm and excitement for what you do and how you help the world.
Sometimes as business owners and as busy entrepreneurs we get distracted by the volume of what we think needs to be done, of a constant sense of urgency to deliver and complete things, and we can forget to come from a place of thankfulness — for what we do, where we are and the possibility of what is before us.
How thankful are you for where you are now, for what you can do to help other people, to be of service?
Want success? Then SHOW UP. This may seem like a simple, even obvious statement, but it’s important, and applies to both our personal and professional lives.
By showing up, I don’t just mean just being physically present, but being emotionally present – to be yourself, your authentic or true self, and to have the conviction to admit, and to be, all that you are and that you want to be.
In our personal lives, showing up and being present is fundamental to connecting to other humans, and the basis for relationships. I think it’s fundamental to success, happiness, fun, and experiencing life’s amazing opportunities.
These opportunities and the success they bring extends into our business lives.
If you are an entrepreneur, showing up is vital. By showing up, and then stepping up, or being your best self, you reach and aspire to all that you want for your business and for all the people that you want to serve. You show the true passion for what you do or what to do. It’s real. It’s genuine. And it resonates. In turn, this fuels the ability to be open to and seize opportunities; to take ideas, nurture them, and do everything possible to make them happen.
For an entrepreneur, this ability to show up and be truly present means that you give yourself permission to commit to what you want to do, and just as importantly to be clear with yourself – and with others – on WHY you do it.